Sunday, July 30, 2017

Ok. I've read about and only the few passages from that place of Danvers Statement works for here

Candle in the Window exist to be a place of refuge and support for ladies that want to be traditional Christian women wearing dresses and skirts and dressing modest.  As well as being a help meet to the husband.  I thought that this is what "A coalition for Biblical Sexuality"  people were about but it doesn't seem to be so.  I find there is a lot of  inconsistency in their material.  They seem to be against women wearing dresses and skirts.  They are definitely against women wearing head covers for prayer.   This site is ok with ladies wearing head covers.  You are not forced to but head covers are welcome here weather it is all the time to show head ship or only for prayers and church.  I like some of the things they say in the Danvers Statement but they are really no different than a feminist church.  I think they are confused.  And so another reason for this site is to help with the confusion.  Our society for so long says women are men and must act and look like men and so it is very hard for anyone anymore to understand differences of gender etc..  Do you know that many societies when they became Christian  changed their dress to match the Christian.  The Navajo women and men would have been considered naked in the old times but when Christians were around them they developed their own style of pants, hat and shirt and the women developed the kind of skirt they wear even today.  So even though they say we need to follow the differences between women and men, well, they really don't.  So I will use what is good and remove what is not useful to this site.

Why Gender Matters

This site doesn't exist any more.  I will try to find other things on the topic for you.

I found this evangelical site.  I'm going to see if they will work together with me.  I'm British Orthodox and so they may not work with me.  They have some very good information on Complimentarian  relationships.  And so I am interested in learning more because this could help ladies to return to being happy to be women again.  

Saturday, July 29, 2017

The Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood - Against abuse towards women

I also liked that they made it clear that no one has the right to abuse anyone under any circumstance.


Adopted by the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood at its meeting in Lisle, Illinois in November, 1994.
  • We understand abuse to mean the cruel use of power or authority to harm another person emotionally, physically, or sexually.
  • We are against all forms of physical, sexual and /or verbal abuse.
  • We believe that the biblical teaching on relationships between men and women does not support, but condemns abuse (Prov. 12:18Eph. 5:25-29Col. 3:181 Tim. 3:3Titus 1:7-81 Pet. 3:7; 5:3).
  • We believe that abuse is sin. It is destructive and evil. Abuse is the hallmark of the devil and is in direct opposition to the purpose of God. Abuse ought not to be tolerated in the Christian community.
  • We believe that the Christian community is responsible for the well-being of its members. It has a responsibility to lovingly confront abusers and to protect the abused.
  • We believe that both abusers and the abused are in need of emotional and spiritual healing.
  • We believe that God extends healing to those who earnestly seek him.
  • We are confident of the power of God’s healing love to restore relationships fractured by abuse, but we realize that repentance, forgiveness, wholeness, and reconciliation is a process. Both abusers and abused are in need of on-going counseling, support and accountability.
  • In instances where abusers are unrepentant and/or unwilling to make significant steps toward change, we believe that the Christian community must respond with firm discipline of the abuser and advocacy, support and protection of the abused.
  • We believe that by the power of God’s Spirit, the Christian community can be an instrument of God’s love and healing for those involved in abusive relationships and an example of wholeness in a fractured, broken world. The Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood

I don't know much about this organization.  I am a Christian that believes that probably all churches in some ways have fallen away from the original church since the disciples of Christ formed the early church.  And besides, all of the churches until recently believed in what these people speak about in their Danvers Statement so I feel good about these things but I can not say any thing else about them.
Click here to go to the web site.

The Danvers Statement summarizes the need for the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) and serves as an overview of our core beliefs. This statement was prepared by several evangelical leaders at a CBMW meeting in Danvers, Massachusetts, in December of 1987. It was first published in final form by the CBMW in Wheaton, Illinois in November of 1988.
We have been moved in our purpose by the following contemporary developments which we observe with deep concern:
  1. The widespread uncertainty and confusion in our culture regarding the complementary differences between masculinity and femininity;
  2. the tragic effects of this confusion in unraveling the fabric of marriage woven by God out of the beautiful and diverse strands of manhood and womanhood;
  3. the increasing promotion given to feminist egalitarianism with accompanying distortions or neglect of the glad harmony portrayed in Scripture between the loving, humble leadership of redeemed husbands and the intelligent, willing support of that leadership by redeemed wives;
  4. the widespread ambivalence regarding the values of motherhood, vocational homemaking, and the many ministries historically performed by women;
  5. the growing claims of legitimacy for sexual relationships which have Biblically and historically been considered illicit or perverse, and the increase in pornographic portrayal of human sexuality;
  6. the upsurge of physical and emotional abuse in the family;
  7. the emergence of roles for men and women in church leadership that do not conform to Biblical teaching but backfire in the crippling of Biblically faithful witness;
  8. the increasing prevalence and acceptance of hermeneutical oddities devised to reinterpret apparently plain meanings of Biblical texts;
  9. the consequent threat to Biblical authority as the clarity of Scripture is jeopardized and the accessibility of its meaning to ordinary people is withdrawn into the restricted realm of technical ingenuity;
  10. and behind all this the apparent accommodation of some within the church to the spirit of the age at the expense of winsome, radical Biblical authenticity which in the power of the Holy Spirit may reform rather than reflect our ailing culture.
Based on our understanding of Biblical teachings, we affirm the following:
  1. Both Adam and Eve were created in God’s image, equal before God as persons and distinct in their manhood and womanhood (Gen 1:26-27, 2:18).
  2. Distinctions in masculine and feminine roles are ordained by God as part of the created order, and should find an echo in every human heart (Gen 2:18, 21-241 Cor 11:7-91 Tim 2:12-14).
  3. Adam’s headship in marriage was established by God before the Fall, and was not a result of sin (Gen 2:16-18, 21-24, 3:1-13; 1 Cor 11:7-9).
  4. The Fall introduced distortions into the relationships between men and women (Gen 3:1-7, 12, 16).
    1. In the home, the husband’s loving, humble headship tends to be replaced by domination or passivity; the wife’s intelligent, willing submission tends to be replaced by usurpation or servility.
    2. In the church, sin inclines men toward a worldly love of power or an abdication of spiritual responsibility, and inclines women to resist limitations on their roles or to neglect the use of their gifts in appropriate ministries.
  5. The Old Testament, as well as the New Testament, manifests the equally high value and dignity which God attached to the roles of both men and women (Gen 1:26-27, 2:18; Gal 3:28). Both Old and New Testaments also affirm the principle of male headship in the family and in the covenant community (Gen 2:18Eph 5:21-33Col 3:18-191 Tim 2:11-15).
  6. Redemption in Christ aims at removing the distortions introduced by the curse.
    1. In the family, husbands should forsake harsh or selfish leadership and grow in love and care for their wives; wives should forsake resistance to their husbands’ authority and grow in willing, joyful submission to their husbands’ leadership (Eph 5:21-33Col 3:18-19Tit 2:3-51 Pet 3:1-7).
    2. In the church, redemption in Christ gives men and women an equal share in the blessings of salvation; nevertheless, some governing and teaching roles within the church are restricted to men (Gal 3:281 Cor 11:2-161 Tim 2:11-15).
  7. In all of life Christ is the supreme authority and guide for men and women, so that no earthly submission-domestic, religious, or civil-ever implies a mandate to follow a human authority into sin (Dan 3:10-18Acts 4:19-20, 5:27-29; 1 Pet 3:1-2).
  8. In both men and women a heartfelt sense of call to ministry should never be used to set aside Biblical criteria for particular ministries (1 Tim 2:11-15, 3:1-13; Tit 1:5-9). Rather, Biblical teaching should remain the authority for testing our subjective discernment of God’s will.
  9. With half the world’s population outside the reach of indigenous evangelism; with countless other lost people in those societies that have heard the gospel; with the stresses and miseries of sickness, malnutrition, homelessness, illiteracy, ignorance, aging, addiction, crime, incarceration, neuroses, and loneliness, no man or woman who feels a passion from God to make His grace known in word and deed need ever live without a fulfilling ministry for the glory of Christ and the good of this fallen world (1 Cor 12:7-21).
  10. We are convinced that a denial or neglect of these principles will lead to increasingly destructive consequences in our families, our churches, and the culture at large.

What Older Women Teach Us About Love

February 12, 2016
Christina Fox

I have a guilty pleasure. I enjoy browsing Pinterest for new recipes, homeschooling ideas, and fun crafts (admittedly though, I never do the crafts). Almost every time I scroll through the pins, I see ones for blog posts on the topic of loving your husband. “20 Ways to Love Your Husband” “How to Truly Love Your Husband” “10 Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ to Your Husband.”
Flesh and Blood vs. Online Resources
As wives, we all desire to grow in our love for our husbands. In our internet saturated culture, we often turn to online resources when we want to learn something or when we are seeking a solution to a problem. For certain, the blog posts and articles we find online contain plenty of great ideas and tips for how to love our husbands. Many contain good reminders of things we know but often forget in the midst of our busy lives. But I do wonder if we want to learn how to love someone, should online resources be our go-to source of wisdom on how to love? Or are there other resources we overlook?

This is a resource that humorously I found because of a woman in New Mexico who was attacking them.  I haven't been able to speak to the people yet and so don't know how real they really are.  But some of what they have written seem really good.  I am in the process of contacting their office to learn more about them.  I don't want to set up my readers for another false resource.  People saying they follow the Bible and are for Biblical Womanhood and modesty etc. and in reality are very much against us and are just drawing us in to attack and insult us.  

So click onto this link and read the rest of the article.  It was the best resource supporting what we are doing at Candle in the Window.  I want to be the real flesh and bone elder woman helping you physically face to face.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Insulting House wives by calling us sugar babies

I read another poll that stated that most Americans do not read or study the Bible.  So of course the insult to woman who follow the Bible and care for home and family.  The amounts of women even caring about their children was a very small percentage of women.  15% in Utah and steadily going down from that.  In the 1950's it was the opposite.  15% working outside the home.  Those 15% were women forced to work outside the home.  Husband died or lost job for instance.  It is really sad because if a woman is God fearing and wanting to be a Titus 2 woman she is very much alone.  And this is the reason for this site and the classes I hope to offer for free.  Why for free.  I didn't see Jesus charge for his grace.  A few years ago I decided to try to teach a small group of girls how to crochet.  One of the mothers wanted to learn too.  She said she didn't know how to do anything in the home.  Her mother felt that women are to only work outside the home.  So of course doing anything for the home was forbidden and looked down upon.  That is so sad.  I had wanted when I was young to teach home economics but by the time I was to graduate from High School it was canceled in the public schools.  So now no one learns how to care for the home.  It has even become a source of abuse to be a house wife.  Many other ladies treat us like we are of low intellect.  That is a shame.  Will for those that would like to learn just send me an email and we will arrange for you to learn and also we will provide the support and friend ship needed too.