Saturday, December 30, 2017

I found a curriculum to instruct ladies in home making and on being a keeper at home

It was very hard to find any good materials on home economics.  When I was young they had plenty of books on home economics and it was taught in the public school.  Now days, because feminist felt ladies learning about home economics was abusive it was taken out of all the schools.  This lack of education has left ladies not knowing what to do in the home.  I have heard so many ladies saying they don't know how to cook and even how to sew a button onto a blouse when a button happens to pop off their blouse.  It is so common for ladies to say there is nothing to do in the home and there fore I must go outside the home because the home is boring.  I on the other hand am never board at home.  There is so much to do.  This curriculum is a Mennonite one.  The Mennonites are very conservative that wrote this curriculum.  Please do not feel it is necessary for you to wear the cape dress.  I personally do not wear a cape dress because I am not a conservative Mennonite or Amish.  Some Mennonite ladies get upset when ladies not in their church wear the cape dress.  It is a very important part of their church and culture.  When new ladies join the Mennonite church they are not allowed to wear the cape dress and the white cap unless they prove to the congregation that they are living the Mennonite life.  I had a lady that was a deacons wife tell me, "  It upsets me when non Mennonites wear the cape dress and cap because they do not follow our beliefs and they do things we would never do."  But one can still be feminine and modest without wearing traditional Mennonite and Amish dress. 

The Home Economics curriculum comes from Christian Light Publications   This is the link for course one. 

Course one includes Cooking, planning a healthy menu, Making a shopping plan, watching the calories, how to choose materials and about the different types of fiber, sewing, the Godly home, child development, keeping the body healthy.

The second course Home Economics 2    covers

 bread and cake baking, gardening and food preservation, and money management

I was going to only teach ladies here in Valencia county New Mexico but I am considering teaching online maybe on an online phone method.  If you are interested, please send me an email.  If I get enough people interested,  I may start a class.  

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

The Christmas Candle

   My husband purchased a ROKU for me.  I'm shut -in and he wanted something nice for me.  Well there are all kinds of so called Christmas programs.  "A Merry Cricket", "The Grinch Who Stole Christmas" , Rudolph and Santa Claus who ends up in prison, etc. etc.  The sad thing is that none of these had anything to do with what Christmas truly is about. The holiday is named Christmas which means the day of Christ.  So on this holiday we are supposed to be remembering Christ and what his birth meant for us.  Without Jesus Christ we would have no salvation.
     So the only program on my ROKU that had anything to do with Christ was "The Christmas Candle".  I don't want to spoil it for you but to say that Christ worked mightily in the little town of Gladberry.

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Miss Julia's Patterns

I usually make all my clothes.  I like to dress modest and feminine and around where I live this can be very challenging.  There just aren't any stores that have the kind of clothing I like to wear.  So I'm always on the look out for nice pattern stores.  I happen to knit, crochet, sew and spin so I can get just what I want.  Today I got an email from one of my favorite stores.  Miss Julia's Patterns.  She has a lot of skirt and dress patterns that are vintage and so they are a lot more modest than most of what we have today.  Here's her link.  Go ahead, and have a great time looking at her items.  P.S.  she has a blog and a store.  Many items in her store are reasonably priced and on her blog you can find many free patterns too.  Miss Julia's Patterns 

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Modest Christian Ladies Titus 2

This was my first Modest Ladies Blog.  I started it 18 years ago when I realized by prayer and reading Bible that I needed to dress feminine(dresses and skirts), to be a keeper at home and to use a head cover.  This blog was meant to be for the world.  Candle in the Window is my blog that I hope will get ladies in New Mexico in Valencia county interested in following Christian women's modesty etc.  It was my hope that some would like to learn and I am hoping to teach if possible if God so blesses me.  But there are a lot of articles and links to good sites that are educational for all. 

Monday, November 27, 2017

Prayer Shawl Ministry

Hello Ladies,

I think ministries are important for Christian ladies.  It allows us to think about someone else besides ourselves.  I especially want to start this ministry for the woman's shelter in Belen.  Many of these ladies have fallen on hard times.  The husband has left or they just lost a job and couldn't get another one soon enough before they lost their home or apartment.  I think it is wonderful that Daughters of YAHWEH Women's Ministries have a woman's home called "GOD's Home- House of Second Chances.  This is the place that I am sending my prayer shawls.  These women really need a piece of love like a shawl to let them know they are still valued as they work hard to get on their feet again.

Here is what they say on their brochure.  God has placed a vision on our hearts to open up a home for women who need help.  God has called us to be His hands and feet to extend help to those in need.  We the Daughters of Yahweh submit ourselves to the calling.  In this home we want to be able to provide a safe place for women to come and gain a relationship with God and gain Confidence in everyday living.  We serve a God of second chances.  He has given my sister's and me a second chance at life and we want to be able to extend that to other women.  We want to give hope to the hopeless.  Our plan is to allow the women God sends to us a 30- 60 day stay to help them get back on their feet.  We will help them with their career goals, resumes, and applying for jobs in hope of job placement.  We would provide their everyday necessities such as food, hygiene products, and a place to wash their clothing.  While in the home they would have to attend Church, Bible study, and daily devotions/prayer.  These women would have to be committed and want to change their lives for the better.  To ensure this they will have to sign a written contract.  If they do not show progress they will have to leave the home. 

Contact Jessica Garcia at 505-504-3414 or Nicole Mirabal at 505-620-2283

Now some information on learning how to crochet or knit so you can make some of these wonderful shawls.  The best place if you do not live in Valencia County New Mexico area is to go to Craftsy.  or you tube  You can then pay for a class on Craftsy which have wonderful teachers and the camera is excellent,  you tube has ladies putting up free classes, but they aren't always so good.  You can also go to the library and find whatever knitting and crochet books they have our you can contact me and we could arrange to have me personally teach you for free in the Valencia County New Mexico area.

One can get wonderful patterns for free online at or

Also there is a

The original prayer shawl pattern or you can also get the book - "The Crocheted Prayer Shawl Companion or

The New Prayer Shawl Companion: 35 Knitted Patterns to Embrace Inspire & Celebrate Life.  If you need any help with any thing with the ministry, please send me an email and I will help you.

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

The Importance of Underpinnings


  We are very fortunate as we don't live during the Victorian Age.  I not only liked to study anthropology while I was at the University but I also took the History of Costume.  Ladies during the Victorian Age in England (at least the wealthy ones) wore lots of clothing.  They wore underpants that were open in the crotch.  They wore a chemise and over that the corset.  hey then put a corset cover over the corset (corsets were costly and had to be protected from dirt and perspiration).  Then they would put on petticoat's or a cage and petticoats.  That's a lot of clothes to put on and they hadn't even gotten to the dress yet or bodice and skirts.  I have read that fully dressed women often had at least 40 pounds of fabric hanging off their hips.  Also, they wanted a tiny waist.  So they started young girls off with corsets- pulling the waist smaller and smaller.  I have read that most ladies during that time had 14 inch waist. 
     Fortunately we ladies of today do not have to ruin our health crushing our waist into a tiny size.  We also don't have to wear 40 pounds worth of fabric in our skirts.  (Honestly, I have no idea how the ladies stood the heat or how they scrubbed floors or ran after feisty children.)
     IN do still need some sort of underpinnings.  I have studied about how our underwear (panties ) got smaller and smaller and skimpy.  Which doesn't supply much coverage to our private parts.  I think bloomers are really nice to have under a skirt.  A bloomer in broad cloth for Summer and flannel for Winter in cold places.  It really is a good answer for those embarrassing moments when the wind blows your dress up or you fall down for some reason.  You will still be decent as everything will be well covered.
     Another useful article of under clothing is the slip.  I like ones that have wide straps and neck lines.  The neck lines have to be low enough to not be seen above my dress neck line but high enough to provide adequate coverage.  There is even an antique slip pattern with short sleeves which works well if the dress has sheer sleeves.  It also is useful to have half slips and camisoles. I find these useful when I go to the doctor because they often need to raise my blouse to hear my heart.
     Where pinnings make even a reasonably solid fabric definitely not see through.  You will be surprised how see through fabric can get when the sun light shines through it.  So slips help to make the dress opaque.  Slips also help dresses to hang over the body better and smoother.    
     One should wear a well fitting bra.  However, some ladies aren't able to wear a bra due to health issues.  Then it is best to wear a modesty vest so people will not see your nipples and dark portion of your bust through your out side clothes.  
     Also it is important to choose a bra that isn't designed to make a lady super sexy like the bullet bra, or super padded push up bras that are designed to make ones bust to look super large and seductive.
     Now days, (well at least where I live) it is difficult to find slips and bloomers.
     So I will list where one can find slips, half slips, camisoles and bloomers.  It is also nice to sew them yourself.  A nice full slip cost me $6.oo to sew with new fabric.  (I purchase fabric from Walmart).  
     You also probably wonder how many of each item do you need.  I like to have seven of each kind of underpinnings but I am old and sick so I can not get to washing every single day.  If you are able to wash and dry the items daily, then two of each item will be enough.

If you have any questions, send me an email.  I'll be more than happy to help.  

For sewers: Candle on the Hill-  sewing patterns for slips, bloomers, half slips 
                   Common Sense Patterns -Petti blouses, slips, bloomers, modesty vest
                   Friends Patterns - slips, modesty vest, bloomers
                   Kings Daughters - half slip, bloomers, modesty vest
For purchase Mary My Way - full slips
                     Gehman's full slips and half slips
                     Lilies of the Field - camisole, full slips, half slips, 

These are just a few stores.  I will add more links later.  

Sunday, November 12, 2017

About the Effects Media Has on the American Population

     When I was at University, I took extra classes in anthropology.  I was very interested in a research the professor presented to us.  He told us that a society can have their entire culture changed by a television set.  He said that experiments have been done where a television with specific programs were were shown to the people and then after a few months almost all of the population stopped dressing and behaving the way they used to.
     You are probably asking me what does this have to do with America.  Well one very good example is Clark Gable in the movie "It Happened One Night."  In this 1934 movie, in a scene where he undresses, the under shirt was abandoned and he was filmed bare chested.  As a result it became cool for men to go bare chested, which resulted in a large drop in undershirt sales around the country.  The sales dropped so much that some underwear manufactures sued Columbia Picture Studio.
     So you see how much T.V. affects  the population.  So imagine what present day T.V. and other media does to our culture.  The T.V. and other media are not sending a biblical message.  There is a strong sex message in almost all T.V. and other media.  Even Christian women are bombarded with the message of feminism and lewdness.  Notice how the icons of our culture are the Kardashians, and other popular women.  These women teach us by example to wear see through over tight leggings for example.  I've seen ladies wear them so tight that the seams go into the cracks of their privates. Not only is the modern American media teaching us ladies to dress lewd and masculine but also teaching us that children, and the home is stupid.  Now days women are afraid to be a house wife and mothers.  Everything is about her and her career.  I've known Christian ladies that even got operations so they would never have children, so they can spend their whole lives at the career.
     We need real Christian movie makers who show a real Christian reality that Christ would have us live.

Monday, November 6, 2017

A Free Head Cover pattern I designed myself

Free Patterns

Hello Ladies,
I'm hoping to get up some free patterns soon to help ladies with modest and simple skirts, covers, etc.

The First Free Pattern - A Chapel Veil

Round Crocheted
Chapel Veil with Filet
Cross Design
Round Crocheted Chapel Veil With Filet Cross Design
By Ripsimeh Christian
Filet Crochet
Filet is a type of crochet which consists of blocks and spaces, so arranged as to
produce an interesting design. All filet designs are worked from a chart of squares.
The dark squares represent blocks and the light squares represent spaces. Unless
otherwise instructed in the directions, allow four double crochets (4 dc) for the first
block and three double crochets (3 dc) for each additional block. For instance, three
blocks require ten double crochets (10 dc)
To make a row of spaces, first work a foundation chain. Then, make double crochet
(dc) in 8th chain (ch) from hook, * chain (ch) 2, skip 2 chain (ch), double crochet (dc) in
next chain (ch). Repeat from * to end of chain (ch). Chain (ch) 5 to thurn at the end of
the row.
When there are several rows of spaces to be made, each double crochet is worked
directly over double crochet of previous row and same number of chains is made
between double crochets.
To decrease spaces or blocks. On a space slip stitch (sl st) 3 stitches and dc in next
stitch and continue following your patterns chart. Same thing on a block except
instead of slip stitching across chains you are doing 3 slip stitches (sl sts) across
double crochets (dc). At the end of a row just stop at the last block or space and Chain
five and turn or end off as per your chart.
I revised this veil pattern to make it easy even for the beginner crocheter. Decreasing
in filet crochet is easy as one only needs to know how to slip stitch to reach the second
square and to stop before the last square.
Veil Pattern
one ball of # 10 crochet cotton
One American size 6 steel crochet hook
A sewing needle to weave in ends
Ch 80, dc in eigth ch and follow chart starting at the arrow. You will be working the
upper portion of the chapel veil. Cut off thread about 4 inches long and knot.
Copyright 2012 Ripsimeh Christian aka Amy Frank.Ripsimeh patterns are protected by copyright. You may
not rewrite, redistribute, or resell the patterns in any form. You may use the pattern to make items for personal
use, as gifts, or for charity. You may not sell the items made from the patterns without written permission.
The second half of the veil:
With the right side facing turn the veil around so bottom half is at the top.
Attach thread in top of second dc and ch 3 (counts as 1 dc) continue by following the
chart until the chart is finished. Cut off thread about 4 inches and knot. Weave all
thread ends into the work and cut ends close to the work.
Rounding off the veil:
Attach thread at arrow on chart. Sl st in that points ch. Ch 5 sl st in point 2, ch 5 sl st
in point 3, ch 4 sl st in point 4, ch 4 sl st in point 5, ch 4 sl st in point 6, ch 5 sl st in
point 7, ch 5 sl st in point 7, ch 5 sl st in point 8, ch 5 sl st in point 9, sc in the sides of 2
ch 1 dc, 2 ch 1 dc, 2 ch 1 dc ( 9 sc ), ch 5 sl st in point 10, ch 5 sl st in point 11, ch 5 sl
st in point 12, ch 4 sl st in point 13, ch 4 sl st in point 14, ch 4 sl st in point 15, ch 5 sl st
in point 16, ch 5 sl st in point 17, sc in 2 ch, sc in dc, sc in 2 ch, sc in 4 dc, sc in 2 ch,
sc in 1 dc, sc in 2 ch, sc in 2 dc (14 sc) ch 5 sl st in point 18, ch 5 sl st in point 19, ch 4
sl st in point 20, ch 4 sl st in point 21, ch 4 sl st in point 22, ch 5 sl st in point 23, ch 5 sl
st in point 24, ch 5 sl st in point 25, sc in next 2 ch, sc in dc, sc in 2 ch, sc in dc, sc in
next 3 ch, (9 sc), ch 5 sl st in point 26, ch 5 sl st in point 27, ch 5 sl st in point 28, ch 4
sl st in point 29, ch 4 sl st in point 30, ch 4 sl st in point 31, ch 5 sl st in point 32, ch 5 sl
st in point 33, sc in 2 ch, sc in 10 dc, sc in 2 ch, sc in dc.
Next Round:
Sc in each ch and in each sc until at the beginning and then sl st in the first beginning
Ruffle edging:
Ch 5, in same stitch and then make (1dc, 2 ch, 1 dc) *skip 5 sc and make (1 dc, 2 ch, 1
dc, 2 ch, 1 dc, 2 ch, 1 dc, 2 ch, 1 dc, 2 ch, 1 dc) in the next sc, repeat from * until the
beginning and make (1 dc, ch 2, 1 dc, ch 2, 1 dc, ch 2) note: may not be 5 sc between
the last ruffle and the ending half ruffle.
Sl st in 3rd ch.
Finish off loose threads.
Wonderful!! You have a new Chapel veil/ Cap
Look at my blog to learn how to keep the veil on your head
Copyright 2012 Ripsimeh Christian aka Amy Frank.Ripsimeh patterns are protected by copyright. You may not
rewrite, redistribute, or resell the patterns in any form. You may use the pattern to make items for personal use,
as gifts, or for charity. You may not sell the items made from the patterns without written permission.

Monday, October 30, 2017

Dainty Jewells - A modest ladies dress shop online

While surfing the net I ran into this really nice store.  They seem to have nothing with hemlines higher than below knee and sleeves at least to the elbow.  They also have wonderful swim dresses.  I had to include them because finding modest clothing can really be challenging.  They also have swim dresses and under shorts for the swim dresses.  It is nearly impossible to find feminine, modest swimwear.  I hope you will enjoy clicking the link and learning about his lovely store.  Dainty Jewell

Words From My Doctor


  I'm not going to tell you who the doctor is, because who he is isn't as important as what he said.
     After treating me with medicines for a lung infection, he came back to speak to my husband and I.  He was upset that women would come to his clinic wearing skirts so short that it just barely covered her vagina if she stood perfectly still.  When the nurse came to take the ladies temperature, weight etc.  The lady wanted to know if her tits were hanging out enough.  She had a blouse with so low a neckline that it just covered the dark part of her breast.  He was upset because when when he got to the examination room the woman opened her legs wide to show off her whole vagina.  She wore no under clothes.
     He also told us that the public schools have started telling all of his grand children that not being homosexual was just wrong.  His grand children were taught that 50% of all students were homosexual.  They told them that this was a good thing because homosexuality was superior to a heterosexual life style because no one had to worry about the evil of having children with a homosexual lifestyle.
     He then told me that one of his girl relations married a woman,  The rest of the relations told him "It's great!!  " "It's the thing to do".  He told me that after one generation of 50% being homosexual and having not children the human race would stop existing.
        Well I told him simply that the average American has no idea about authentic Christian beliefs.  I told him the average American didn't really know who Jesus is.
     I wasn't raised Christian.  I was raised Atheist and I never had an idea about Christ because all the Christians around me knew about as much as I did.  I believe this is the main reason the church is failing and dwindling in numbers.
     The doctor was upset about the singers and movie stars who declare all the time that they are the best Christians and all should follow them.  Follow them putting on movies, dressing lewdly, sleeping around with any and and anything.
     But everyone has to understand something very important.  These ladies believe that this is the Jesus way.  They hear it from pastors and priest from almost all churches except the most conservative Mennonites and Old Order Amish and a few others. 
     Unfortunately, these groups of people are not able to teach the world because they live very cloistered lives.
     The only way we will see a change in the greater American society is if we pray that the Holy Spirit reaches these women just as the Holy Spirit reached me.  So I am hoping that my readers would send me prayers that may be used by members of Candle in the Window to pray for the American women.
     The other important thing we need is to create a haven to support ladies who want to follow Jesus better.(It is not popular to be a modest lady in present day American society.  Many modest ladies get attacked by mainstream America.       We also need lessons for these ladies too.  So many ladies were so intent to be men that they don't know how to do anything in the home.  All these things need to be learned by today's American women.
     But I feel that with the blessings of God the Father, The Holy Spirit, and Jesus, that this ministry can be successful.  I pray that my readers will help me to do God's well.

Friday, September 29, 2017

Bible Verses for Young Ladies

Young Ladies

Proverbs 31:30 

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

1 Timothy 2:9 


Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,

Proverbs 3:5-6 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Romans 12:2 

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Jeremiah 29:11 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Titus 2:1-15 

But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. ...

Galatians 2:20  

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Philippians 4:6-7  

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Proverbs 31:25-29 


Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”

Romans 12:1 

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

Proverbs 11:22


Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.

Matthew 7:7

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Proverbs 31:20

She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.

Hebrews 13:4


Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

1 Corinthians 11:15 

But if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering.

Luke 6:30  

Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back.

Proverbs 14:1-2 

The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. Whoever walks in uprightness fears the Lord, but he who is devious in his ways despises him.

2 Corinthians 5:17 

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Proverbs 31:12 

She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Song of Solomon 4:7  

You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.

Psalm 144:12 

May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace;

Hebrews 4:16


Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

1 Timothy 4:12 

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.

Romans 5:1-21

Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. ...

Luke 9:62 

Jesus said to him, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God.”

Proverbs 4:23 

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

1 Timothy 5:1-2


Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Titus 2:3 

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good,

Psalm 91:1-16  

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that flies by day, ...

1 Corinthians 11:1-34 

Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ. Now I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions even as I delivered them to you. But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven. ...

Proverbs 14:12 

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.

Deuteronomy 24:1-22 

“When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lordyour God is giving you for an inheritance. “When a man is newly married, he shall not go out with the army or be liable for any other public duty. He shall be free at home one year to be happy with his wife whom he has taken. ...

Isaiah 53:1-12  

Who has believed what he has heard from us? And to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed? For he grew up before him like a young plant, and like a root out of dry ground; he had no form or majesty that we should look at him, and no beauty that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his stripes we are healed. ...

Isaiah 8:20 

To the teaching and to the testimony! If they will not speak according to this word, it is because they have no dawn.

Proverbs 7:1-27  

My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend, to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words. ...

Song of Solomon 2:7 

I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

Proverbs 31:23 

Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.

Romans 1:1-32 

Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus, called to be an apostle, set apart for the gospel of God, which he promised beforehand through his prophets in the holy Scriptures, concerning his Son, who was descended from David according to the flesh and was declared to be the Son of God in power according to the Spirit of holiness by his resurrection from the dead, Jesus Christ our Lord, through whom we have received grace and apostleship to bring about the obedience of faith for the sake of his name among all the nations, ...

Esther 3:1-15 

After these things King Ahasuerus promoted Haman the Agagite, the son of Hammedatha, and advanced him and set his throne above all the officials who were with him. And all the king's servants who were at the king's gate bowed down and paid homage to Haman, for the king had so commanded concerning him. But Mordecai did not bow down or pay homage. Then the king's servants who were at the king's gate said to Mordecai, “Why do you transgress the king's command?” And when they spoke to him day after day and he would not listen to them, they told Haman, in order to see whether Mordecai's words would stand, for he had told them that he was a Jew. And when Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow down or pay homage to him, Haman was filled with fury. ...

Proverbs 31:11 

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Ok. I've read about and only the few passages from that place of Danvers Statement works for here

Candle in the Window exist to be a place of refuge and support for ladies that want to be traditional Christian women wearing dresses and skirts and dressing modest.  As well as being a help meet to the husband.  I thought that this is what "A coalition for Biblical Sexuality"  people were about but it doesn't seem to be so.  I find there is a lot of  inconsistency in their material.  They seem to be against women wearing dresses and skirts.  They are definitely against women wearing head covers for prayer.   This site is ok with ladies wearing head covers.  You are not forced to but head covers are welcome here weather it is all the time to show head ship or only for prayers and church.  I like some of the things they say in the Danvers Statement but they are really no different than a feminist church.  I think they are confused.  And so another reason for this site is to help with the confusion.  Our society for so long says women are men and must act and look like men and so it is very hard for anyone anymore to understand differences of gender etc..  Do you know that many societies when they became Christian  changed their dress to match the Christian.  The Navajo women and men would have been considered naked in the old times but when Christians were around them they developed their own style of pants, hat and shirt and the women developed the kind of skirt they wear even today.  So even though they say we need to follow the differences between women and men, well, they really don't.  So I will use what is good and remove what is not useful to this site.

Why Gender Matters

This site doesn't exist any more.  I will try to find other things on the topic for you.

I found this evangelical site.  I'm going to see if they will work together with me.  I'm British Orthodox and so they may not work with me.  They have some very good information on Complimentarian  relationships.  And so I am interested in learning more because this could help ladies to return to being happy to be women again.  

Saturday, July 29, 2017

The Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood - Against abuse towards women

I also liked that they made it clear that no one has the right to abuse anyone under any circumstance.


Adopted by the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood at its meeting in Lisle, Illinois in November, 1994.
  • We understand abuse to mean the cruel use of power or authority to harm another person emotionally, physically, or sexually.
  • We are against all forms of physical, sexual and /or verbal abuse.
  • We believe that the biblical teaching on relationships between men and women does not support, but condemns abuse (Prov. 12:18Eph. 5:25-29Col. 3:181 Tim. 3:3Titus 1:7-81 Pet. 3:7; 5:3).
  • We believe that abuse is sin. It is destructive and evil. Abuse is the hallmark of the devil and is in direct opposition to the purpose of God. Abuse ought not to be tolerated in the Christian community.
  • We believe that the Christian community is responsible for the well-being of its members. It has a responsibility to lovingly confront abusers and to protect the abused.
  • We believe that both abusers and the abused are in need of emotional and spiritual healing.
  • We believe that God extends healing to those who earnestly seek him.
  • We are confident of the power of God’s healing love to restore relationships fractured by abuse, but we realize that repentance, forgiveness, wholeness, and reconciliation is a process. Both abusers and abused are in need of on-going counseling, support and accountability.
  • In instances where abusers are unrepentant and/or unwilling to make significant steps toward change, we believe that the Christian community must respond with firm discipline of the abuser and advocacy, support and protection of the abused.
  • We believe that by the power of God’s Spirit, the Christian community can be an instrument of God’s love and healing for those involved in abusive relationships and an example of wholeness in a fractured, broken world. The Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood

I don't know much about this organization.  I am a Christian that believes that probably all churches in some ways have fallen away from the original church since the disciples of Christ formed the early church.  And besides, all of the churches until recently believed in what these people speak about in their Danvers Statement so I feel good about these things but I can not say any thing else about them.
Click here to go to the web site.

The Danvers Statement summarizes the need for the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW) and serves as an overview of our core beliefs. This statement was prepared by several evangelical leaders at a CBMW meeting in Danvers, Massachusetts, in December of 1987. It was first published in final form by the CBMW in Wheaton, Illinois in November of 1988.
We have been moved in our purpose by the following contemporary developments which we observe with deep concern:
  1. The widespread uncertainty and confusion in our culture regarding the complementary differences between masculinity and femininity;
  2. the tragic effects of this confusion in unraveling the fabric of marriage woven by God out of the beautiful and diverse strands of manhood and womanhood;
  3. the increasing promotion given to feminist egalitarianism with accompanying distortions or neglect of the glad harmony portrayed in Scripture between the loving, humble leadership of redeemed husbands and the intelligent, willing support of that leadership by redeemed wives;
  4. the widespread ambivalence regarding the values of motherhood, vocational homemaking, and the many ministries historically performed by women;
  5. the growing claims of legitimacy for sexual relationships which have Biblically and historically been considered illicit or perverse, and the increase in pornographic portrayal of human sexuality;
  6. the upsurge of physical and emotional abuse in the family;
  7. the emergence of roles for men and women in church leadership that do not conform to Biblical teaching but backfire in the crippling of Biblically faithful witness;
  8. the increasing prevalence and acceptance of hermeneutical oddities devised to reinterpret apparently plain meanings of Biblical texts;
  9. the consequent threat to Biblical authority as the clarity of Scripture is jeopardized and the accessibility of its meaning to ordinary people is withdrawn into the restricted realm of technical ingenuity;
  10. and behind all this the apparent accommodation of some within the church to the spirit of the age at the expense of winsome, radical Biblical authenticity which in the power of the Holy Spirit may reform rather than reflect our ailing culture.
Based on our understanding of Biblical teachings, we affirm the following:
  1. Both Adam and Eve were created in God’s image, equal before God as persons and distinct in their manhood and womanhood (Gen 1:26-27, 2:18).
  2. Distinctions in masculine and feminine roles are ordained by God as part of the created order, and should find an echo in every human heart (Gen 2:18, 21-241 Cor 11:7-91 Tim 2:12-14).
  3. Adam’s headship in marriage was established by God before the Fall, and was not a result of sin (Gen 2:16-18, 21-24, 3:1-13; 1 Cor 11:7-9).
  4. The Fall introduced distortions into the relationships between men and women (Gen 3:1-7, 12, 16).
    1. In the home, the husband’s loving, humble headship tends to be replaced by domination or passivity; the wife’s intelligent, willing submission tends to be replaced by usurpation or servility.
    2. In the church, sin inclines men toward a worldly love of power or an abdication of spiritual responsibility, and inclines women to resist limitations on their roles or to neglect the use of their gifts in appropriate ministries.
  5. The Old Testament, as well as the New Testament, manifests the equally high value and dignity which God attached to the roles of both men and women (Gen 1:26-27, 2:18; Gal 3:28). Both Old and New Testaments also affirm the principle of male headship in the family and in the covenant community (Gen 2:18Eph 5:21-33Col 3:18-191 Tim 2:11-15).
  6. Redemption in Christ aims at removing the distortions introduced by the curse.
    1. In the family, husbands should forsake harsh or selfish leadership and grow in love and care for their wives; wives should forsake resistance to their husbands’ authority and grow in willing, joyful submission to their husbands’ leadership (Eph 5:21-33Col 3:18-19Tit 2:3-51 Pet 3:1-7).
    2. In the church, redemption in Christ gives men and women an equal share in the blessings of salvation; nevertheless, some governing and teaching roles within the church are restricted to men (Gal 3:281 Cor 11:2-161 Tim 2:11-15).
  7. In all of life Christ is the supreme authority and guide for men and women, so that no earthly submission-domestic, religious, or civil-ever implies a mandate to follow a human authority into sin (Dan 3:10-18Acts 4:19-20, 5:27-29; 1 Pet 3:1-2).
  8. In both men and women a heartfelt sense of call to ministry should never be used to set aside Biblical criteria for particular ministries (1 Tim 2:11-15, 3:1-13; Tit 1:5-9). Rather, Biblical teaching should remain the authority for testing our subjective discernment of God’s will.
  9. With half the world’s population outside the reach of indigenous evangelism; with countless other lost people in those societies that have heard the gospel; with the stresses and miseries of sickness, malnutrition, homelessness, illiteracy, ignorance, aging, addiction, crime, incarceration, neuroses, and loneliness, no man or woman who feels a passion from God to make His grace known in word and deed need ever live without a fulfilling ministry for the glory of Christ and the good of this fallen world (1 Cor 12:7-21).
  10. We are convinced that a denial or neglect of these principles will lead to increasingly destructive consequences in our families, our churches, and the culture at large.