Wednesday, July 11, 2018

It Just Isn't Safe to Ride in a Skirt

http://alaynamaysblog.blogspot.com/2018/07/it-just-isnt-safe-to-ride-in-skirt.html



Actually, she is being funny.  She makes modern riding skirts and rides horses in skirts all the time.  She prefers them to split skirts.  It is a must read if you want to ride horses modestly and quite pretty too. 

"*A word of explanation: I was recently asked to write an article about riding safely in skirts. This is the result.  I hope it is encouraging!

     We girls were out with Daddy for our annual Christmas shopping trip - which is really just a nice opportunity to go out for the day with him since we don't usually buy much. We headed into Barnes & Noble to get some coffee and stood near the front door, enjoying our special treat, when an older, sloppily-dressed lady came up to us. "I just wanted to say that I like the way your girls dress," she began in a forceful tone. She looked from Daddy to each of us.
     "Well, thank you," Daddy said.
     "I don't dress that way because I ride horses and it just ain't safe to ride in a skirt, but I like the way you dress."
     All my sisters - except Anna Frances, who was distracted - looked at me. I smiled and said, "Actually, I have horses too and ride in a skirt all the time."
     "Well, you can do that, but I ain't gonna be caught dead in a skirt! It ain't safe!" she said.

     This lady held to a common misconception. All of us who wear skirts have probably heard it at some point or other and many ladies who prefer to dress modestly feel that wearing skirts or dresses would restrict them from riding. This simply is not true, though. Riding in a skirt can be done safely - but it does take a certain amount of thought and preparation. For the purpose of this article, explaining how to ride safely in a skirt, I'm going to skip all the wonderful reasons to wear skirts. Those of you who are reading this are probably already familiar with these reasons and the Biblical basis for them.

     I have been riding in skirts for eight years or so and have never had a skirt-related accident yet. Not to say I never will have one, but I haven't to date. I have also done a lot of other things in skirts, including climbing trees (a lot), swimming, hiking, bicycle riding, climbing rocks, canoeing, dog training, and working around the house and farm. "








Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Riding a horse while staying modest and feminine.

I found this site on Etsy and I have written her asking her to write about the safety of riding with a skirt.  She has beautiful riding skirts.  https://www.etsy.com/listing/466889474/custom-ladies-modest-heavy-duty-denim?ref=shop_home_active_6

The site is called ChickenScrapsShop.  Here is a picture of her riding with these lovely riding skirts. 

Sunday, June 10, 2018

My Headcovering Experience by Heather Tomlinson

Hi Ladies.  I recently have gotten a new hair dresser. And now my favorite old headcovers don't work any more.  So I am scrambling to find a new one that well.  I will be designing a crochet one .  Will looking for a ready made on I ran into this article.  It is a must read and one you can use if one makes negative comments to you or if a lady is new to the concepts and wants to learn.  


I did paste the article here.  I have found so much good information just disappear on the web and lost forever.

"RECONSIDERING SUBMISSION

As I covered my head, I meditated on gender, authority and submission. These words evoke the obedience of a servile woman to a harsh, schoolmaster-like figure: they’re in control, I’m their subject. But where does this idea of authority come from? Certainly not Jesus. He taught that those who exalt themselves will be humbled and that if we are to lead we are to serve. And he followed this through by washing a queue of smelly, dirty feet. So the notion of patriarchal authority that my generation has been rebelling against isn’t anything to do with Jesus.  
Any female-specific commands to submit to a (godly) man mean submitting to a servant. I feel that I’m being asked in the Bible not to abuse men in their vulnerability: not to control, boss or manipulate someone who is serving me, but to serve them myself. In other words, I understand this passage to refer to mutual submission. I began to see my own head covering as a symbol that I am working on not being bossy, controlling or manipulative. This is what ‘being under authority’ means to me.
This kind of interdependence in a male/female relationship is echoed in 1 Corinthians 11:11: ‘Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord’ (NKJV). In light of this revelation, several tricky, gender-related Bible passages started to make sense to me, and they became joyfully liberated from the extremes that can be painted by both sides of the egalitarian versus complementarian debate.  "


My Headcovering Experiment

The controversial Islamic teaching that women should cover their heads is often viewed as oppressive. Yet, until recently, head coverings were not uncommon among Christian women. Is this an outdated, sexist concept? Heather Tomlinson dons a headscarf to find out.
There are certain aspects of religion that used to be anathema to me: anything with a whiff of submissiveness, modesty or apparently arbitrary rules.
I (mis)spent my youth dancing on podiums in a bikini at nightclubs, and I vividly remember having a long argument with a radical Islamist outside my university about why it was ridiculous that women wear the hijab.  
When I came to Christ later in life, my views didn’t change much at first and I continued to call myself a feminist through the confused lipstick and ladette culture of the ’90s and noughties. So if you were picking a woman to try out wearing a head covering, I wouldn’t be the obvious choice. It would be even less likely that I would come to respect and enjoy the practice.  
Head coverings for women were once fairly common in the Church, based on 1 Corinthians 11:5: ‘A woman dishonors her head if she prays or prophesies without a covering on her head’ (NLT). This is one of those passages that modern, enlightened Christian women prefer to ignore. Pastors cite ‘context’ and ‘culture’, saying it was a practice for then and not for now.  
There is speculation that this teaching is only found in Corinthians because uncovered women were considered to be prostitutes back then. I’m not convinced by this. The passage talks about angels, glory and authority as the reasons to do it, with no reference to prostitution. So what on earth does this mean?  
"COVERING MY HEAD BROUGHT HOME TO ME HOW SEXUALISED MODERN NOTIONS OF FEMININITY ARE"  
Of course, this issue sits within one of the more acrimonious debates within the Church at present. On one side are the complementarians, who think women and men have fundamentally different roles. They usually ignore head covering. On the other are egalitarians and feminists, who believe God gives us equal and identical roles, and that Bible passages that appear to say otherwise have been misinterpreted.  

THE HANDS-ON APPROACH  

Rather than debate academic studies about first-century womanhood, why not try out a biblical notion such as head covering and see what happens? Rachel Held Evans took this approach in A Year of Biblical Womanhood (Thomas Nelson), and the results were entertaining and sometimes enlightening. Jewish writer AJ Jacobs tried living according to the Old Testament law in The Year of Living Biblically (Simon & Schuster). Despite being a scornful sceptic, he actually went on to have a religious experience.  
A huge number of women cover their heads for religious reasons. There are nuns of every kind of faith, many Catholics, plus the Amish, Brethren, Orthodox Jews, Hutterites and Mennonites. Most of these are Christian. Recently, there has been a head covering revival in certain wings of the US Church: especially the ultra-reformed and those calling themselves ‘Torah-observant’.  
Lobbying in favour of the practice is The Head Covering Movement, set up last year by a man called Jeremy Gardiner, who cites the theologically conservative Gospel Coalition in his profession of faith. The movement’s website features personal stories of women who are usually the only head coverers in their churches, as well as arguments from scripture to support the practice. It cites Martin Luther, William Tyndale and Thomas Aquinas, among others.  

A ‘HOW TO’ IN HEAD COVERING  

However, the organisation’s website is not practical in terms of giving you a ‘how to’. Instead, I venture onto YouTube, where I find countless instruction videos. Tichels, head wraps, caps, shawls, mantillas, hats, snoods: take your pick. There are even online shops dedicated to the practice, such as Garlands of Grace. I took the easy route and wound a scarf round my head like an African head wrap.  
And…I liked it. It was warm, comfortable, neater than my crazy locks and I thought it looked funky. I started experimenting each morning with Jewish tichels, snoods (when in a hurry) and Brethren-style triangle headscarves. Sometimes I had all manner of colours and textiles nestling together on my head, like a crown.  So far, so good. But was head covering mentioned in the Bible as a thoughtful, timesaving, artistic hobby? Probably not.  

UNEXPECTED INSIGHTS  

To my surprise, I started to get some spiritual insights. Covering my head made me think more deeply about which other bits of my body were covered. The first time I went into town with wrapped hair, I also wore a longish skirt and was generally a bit more ‘modest’ than usual. I was taken by surprise. I thought I would have felt self-conscious and dowdy. Instead, I felt empowered and liberated.  
This experience brought home to me how sexualised modern notions of femininity are. Disagree? Go into your average high-street fashion store and try to find an item of clothing that isn’t tight, short or see-through. Attractive, well-coiffed, sexy women such as Angelina Jolie are idolised, while frumpy souls such as Ann Widdecombe are either laughed at or ignored. The subtext is that, if we don’t attract men, we’re not valuable.  
Even without sexual pressure, there’s the tyranny of fashion and the fear of being judged on your appearance; by women as well as by men. Somehow, by covering up, I felt as though I was stepping out of the League Table of Female Attractiveness, and that this might be a good thing. All the better as this was achieved without wearing a hessian smock and brogues.  
However, while I might have been learning from the experience, the rest of the world didn’t really notice. Perhaps if I had worn a more obvious covering that screamed ‘religious’ I would have received more comments; certainly, if I had worn a hijab. I received the odd curious question from friends, and a neighbour who is not known for his love of multiculturalism made a rude comment, but that was it.  
I watched videos of women from different faiths telling their own stories of head covering. They had a variety of reasons for doing so. Some sounded a tad pious. Christians often cited modesty, keeping something for their husbands or wanting to obey God. Often these women had long, blonde hair that could attract a lot of attention.  
A number felt empowered by covering their heads. Andrea Grinberg, an Orthodox Jew who has become a kind of head-wrapping guru, said in one YouTube video that donning a headscarf had surprising effects.  ‘I wanted to reveal my soul,’ she shares.
‘I wanted to reveal my warmth and my love and be connected to people, instead of them looking at something external…I wanted to be an attractive person for who I am on the inside. I cover in order to be who I truly am.’  
Author Karen Armstrong, a former nun, echoed Grinberg’s sentiment in a recent interview with The Guardian: ‘I myself was veiled for seven years [when she was a nun]. It was liberating in some ways. I never had to fuss about my hair or make-up or all the other trivial things with which women in the west fill their heads.’  

LIBERATING MODESTY 

‘Modesty’ is a tainted word, as it is often associated with the view that women invite sexual harassment if they dress in a provocative way. I found that the concept can be liberated from such sexist ideas, but that it’s not about wearing dungarees, shaving our heads and burning our bras. It can just be liberating to have our physicality in the back seat, allowing our inner selves to take centre stage. Is this what Peter meant when he talked about avoiding being concerned with ‘outward adornment’ and instead focusing on ‘the hidden person of the heart’ (1 Peter 3:3-4)?  
You can’t consider the practice of head covering in 1 Corinthians 11 without also thinking about another aspect of the passage that gives modern women like me the heebie-jeebies. Verse 10 says it is a symbol that a woman is under the authority of a man, who in turn is under the authority of Christ. It says we should wear it because woman was made for man ‘and because the angels are watching, a woman should wear a covering on her head to show she is under authority’ (NLT).  

RECONSIDERING SUBMISSION

As I covered my head, I meditated on gender, authority and submission. These words evoke the obedience of a servile woman to a harsh, schoolmaster-like figure: they’re in control, I’m their subject. But where does this idea of authority come from? Certainly not Jesus. He taught that those who exalt themselves will be humbled and that if we are to lead we are to serve. And he followed this through by washing a queue of smelly, dirty feet. So the notion of patriarchal authority that my generation has been rebelling against isn’t anything to do with Jesus.  
Any female-specific commands to submit to a (godly) man mean submitting to a servant. I feel that I’m being asked in the Bible not to abuse men in their vulnerability: not to control, boss or manipulate someone who is serving me, but to serve them myself. In other words, I understand this passage to refer to mutual submission. I began to see my own head covering as a symbol that I am working on not being bossy, controlling or manipulative. This is what ‘being under authority’ means to me.
This kind of interdependence in a male/female relationship is echoed in 1 Corinthians 11:11: ‘Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord’ (NKJV). In light of this revelation, several tricky, gender-related Bible passages started to make sense to me, and they became joyfully liberated from the extremes that can be painted by both sides of the egalitarian versus complementarian debate.  
"I HAD ALL MANNER OF COLOURS AND TEXTILES NESTLING TOGETHER ON MY HEAD LIKE A CROWN"

REMEMBERING THE OPPRESSED

My experience of covering my head has been relentlessly positive. I may have found it fascinating, but any celebration of head covering has to recognise that, for many women, the practice is a symbol of oppression and spiritual abuse. In some countries, a woman or her husband would be flogged or worse for not wearing it. Iranian women made headlines this summer when they de-hijabed themselves on a Facebook page as an act of liberation. Their Stealthy Freedom Facebook page has more than 600,000 ‘likes’.  
This image of a hijab as repressive and misogynistic is probably why it is so controversial. It is banned in French schools and UK politicians have called for the same to happen here.  
It sometimes feels as though women are pressured from all sides: they should be good wives and mothers, they should be career women, they should be earning the same and achieving the same as men, they should be Proverbs 31 women. Should, should, should. The last thing we need is another ‘should’, and I’m in no way suggesting that women ‘should’ cover their heads. 1 Corinthians 11  can be interpreted in various ways, and our individual journeys with God sometimes take us down very different routes.  

LEGALISM-FREE

If wearing or not wearing something on our heads comes out of guilt, manipulation, threat or abuse it must be far from God’s will. But what about the modern symbols of femininity: the lipstick, the push-up bras and the 50 brands of hair-styling product? Muslims might be justified in questioning why they are percieved to be oppressive, while we continue to exploit and objectify women in Western culture. Could the Western woman’s apparent need to get up early to wash, dry, straighten, curl or lacquer her hair in an attempt to look attractive be just as oppressive as being forced to cover your head?  
Jesus doesn’t impose a list of regulations. Our only law is the law of love, and that is achieved through God himself. But I discovered that there might be more beauty and wisdom in those tricky, ignored Bible passages than I had perhaps thought, when approached as an exploration with God and not a law.
Somehow, this seemingly arbitrary bit of cloth on my head helped me to navigate my own path through the warzones of feminism versus subjugation, egalitarian versus complementarian, and sexual object versus sexless nun, to a place where I feel comfortable. So, while that continues, the scarf stays on.

SHOULD WOMEN COVER THEIR HEADS? 

FOR  
‘It took me eight months or so to finally find the courage to be open to this, not for my own discomfort, but for others. The ‘fear of man’ was a really big part of my hesitation. Friends, guys, family; no one I know does it.  
‘Even without the biblical passage (1 Corinthians 11), I have so many reasons why this is right for me. Since I started covering, I have felt God so much more. I hear him, I feel him, I’m constantly reminded that I belong to him.’  
Carlie Bunch, a vegan health coach living in the US. Taken from headcoveringmovement.com. 
AGAINST  
‘I started wearing a head covering some time in elementary school. When I was younger, I’d wear the lace ones, but when I reached young adulthood, I switched to wrapping my head and hair in scarves.  
‘I think it ought to be left up to the individual whether they wish to cover or not, but I also think it lends itself to supporting a system that necessitates the controlling, silencing and subjugation of women.’  
Dani Kelley was raised in a Brethren home in the US. She wore a head covering from fourth grade onwards, but stopped when she lost her faith 



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Sunday, June 3, 2018

craftsy unlimited

Hello ladies,

I just got started with a craftsy unlimited account.  It is 15.00 a month.  It is an online class and also if one gets craftsy unlimited you can watch it on your television if you have ROKU.  This really worked well for me as I have a high school aged child who does all of his high school online.  So now I can do my own classes.  I'm taking Tunisian crochet.  I got my yarn for the project from Knit Picks.  They have lovely yarns that are a lot cheaper than other places.  I got a large amount of hooks for only like 5 dollars at Amazon.com.  They have lots of different classes from baking, gardening, drawing, sewing, knitting, spinning, crochet.  It is really nice if you live somewhere where finding classes  for these things are difficult.  Like I live in the suburbs so we don't have much like Albuquerque and Santa Fe the big cities in New Mexico.  Take a look and see if there are classes that can help you be a good Help Meet and Keeper at home.  craftsy.com



Wednesday, May 23, 2018

A power point presentation on why we should dress modest






Hello ladies,
At the time this article was written, things have changed drastically.  She was trying to get ladies to understand that ladies should be modest and feminine.  She is seven days Adventist but if you are not seven days Adventist please do not throw out the baby with the dirty bath water.  She back a lot of what she is talking about with Bible and also history of Christian ladies and how they dressed before feminism.  But now days, we have to fight for the right to wear clothes.  http://www.newyorkupstate.com/hudson-valley/2018/05/photo_upstate_ny_woman_refuses_to_stop_gardening_while_topless_sues_town_for_arr.html

Women now are going about their daily business topless.  It will not be long before the United States is no different than pagan Egypt.  Women will go about their business completely naked.  And, many churches are going along with it as long as the money keeps coming in.

I was going to quote Quaker Jane but it looks like she took down all of her site.  Too bad.  She had a lot of good information.  It is for this reason I am downloading all of Sisters-in-Skirts.  They also have abandoned their site and I feel the good information will be lost forever. 

Quaker Jane had said to the order of, that as more and more women stop wearing dresses all together, those of us who do will be seen as an anachronism.

Anyway, for those of you who want to dress modest and feminine, here is a good research to help you support your beliefs. 

http://www.sistersinskirts.com/PDF/Introduction-Why-This-Is-Important.pdf

Saturday, May 5, 2018

Keepers At Home

Part of the mission of this blog is to be a haven for ladies who want to be a Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 Christian lady.

http://darashpress.com/articles/keepers-home

This article really especially good at helping in this manner.


"KEEPERS AT HOME"
Written By
WILLIAM O. EINWECHTER
In Titus 2:3-5 the apostle Paul charges the older women in the church to teach the younger women “to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” The instruction for women to be “keepers at home” generally has been understood by the church as teaching that the sphere of a married woman’s work is her home


Nonetheless, in accord with the spirit of our age that looks in disdain upon the notion that the sphere of a married woman’s work is her home, many in the church have rejected the earlier consensus understanding of “keepers at home.” Instead, to be “keepers at home” is interpreted to mean that a wife and mother is “to be busy at home” (NIV), i.e., she “should not be idle or derelict in fulfilling home duties.”[4] In other words, “keepers at home” does not define the married woman’s calling or the sphere of her work, but is simply an admonition not to neglect her domestic duties. Therefore, a wife and mother may pursue a career outside of the home — as a lawyer, teacher, sales clerk, etc. — as long as she fulfills her responsibilities in the home.

The difference between the traditional interpretation of “keepers at home” and the modern version is considerable. While the traditional interpretation established the home as the sphere of a married woman’s work and calling, the modern understanding says that the term does nothing of the kind. While the traditional interpretation defined a married woman’s “career” as homemaking, the modern view teaches that a married woman may pursue a career outside of the home as long as she does not neglect homemaking. While the traditional interpretation calls the woman to focus her energy, time, and talents in the home in the service of her family, the modern view says that she is not so “restricted” and may go outside the home for her employment. Which is the correct understanding? It is our belief that the traditional interpretation is the correct one. We base this opinion on the meaning of the Greek word translated “keepers at home,” and on the wider Biblical teaching on the roles of the wife and mother.

WHAT ABOUT THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN?
A common objection to the interpretation that to be “keepers at home” requires a married woman to confine her work, her “career,” to that of her home, is that the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 did not confine herself in this way. We are told that she was a “business woman” engaged in pursuits beyond the sphere of her own household, thus justifying the claim that a wife and mother is free to pursue employment and a career outside of the home. But the picture of Proverbs 31 is that of a woman managing her own household, not of a woman leaving the home for employment elsewhere.

Actually, the portrayal of the virtuous woman provides strong support for the traditional interpretation of “keepers at home.” She is a wise manager of the resources her husband commits to her care (vv. 14, 16, 24). She is a true helper to her husband enabling him to rise to prominence (v. 11, 12, 23). She cares for the needs of her children and husband, assuring that they are well fed and well clothed (v. 15, 21). She sees that all their property is put to good use (v. 16).[10] She even engages in “cottage industry” by using any available time and strength to make fine linen and sashes to be sold to the merchants.[11]

These are just a few paragraphs that wet the understanding of “Keepers At Home” but you really must click on the link and read the whole article.  It really should help you to feel good about being a “Keeper At Home” or a Housewife.